Other things that are helpful after any loss include talk therapy, support groups, self-care, a balanced diet, and great books (Pema Chödrön’s When Things Fall Apart is a personal favorite of mine). It’s also helpful to remember the positive side of any heartbreak. For me, the broken hearts in my history have opened me up to look at the many pieces and surfaces of my heart. I have been able to put my broken heart back together so that it feels bigger and fuller than ever before. Stronger and more integrated. When there is a break in one spot, it allows the light to penetrate through all the broken places.
If you too are dealing with heartbreak, here are some thoughts to keep in mind:
1. Yes, this hurts, but not forever. As Elizabeth Gilbert says, “Embrace the glorious mess you are.” Give yourself a finite amount of time to wallow, such as, “I can eat ice cream every day for one week, and then I’m done!”
2. Everyone is different and heals in their own way and in their own time. Don’t compare your insides to someone else’s outsides.
3. Keep hope alive for a new love when the time is right, but don’t glom on to someone right away just to distract yourself.
4. Know that you may have many relationships that will teach you a lot before you meet your life partner. All relationships serve a purpose for your growth and healing. Honor the lessons that you will learn from your relationships and even your pain.
5. Use your energy to develop new habits. Make positive changes in your life, and let go of the habits that don’t serve you. If you focus on this, you will be distracted from the obsession of the loss and learn that you can make yourself feel better.
6. Get their crap out of your house. Continuing to exist among the energy of their stuff will prolong your suffering. And stop following them on social media immediately!
7. Take a vacation or take a mini holiday to get a change of scenery if you can.
8. Listen to yourself. Even through the pain, this is an opportunity to know yourself better.
9. Through this evolution of self, you will recognize that you deserve the best, and you will vibrate and attract that. Like Maya Angelou said, “Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option.”
10. Become your own best friend. You were born with yourself and will die with yourself, so make your relationship with you sacred. The more you love you, the more you will be able to receive the love coming your way.
Acupuncture can also help ease physical pain, inflammation, and stress. Here’s how.